1 John 4:16-21 God is love. If we keep on loving others, we will stay one in our hearts with God, and he will stay one with us. 17 If we truly love others and live as Christ did in this world, we won't be worried about the day of judgment. 18 A real love for others will chase those worries away. The thought of being punished is what makes us afraid. It shows that we have not really learned to love.
19 We love because God loved us first. 20 But if we say we love God and don't love each other, we are liars. We cannot see God. So how can we love God, if we don't love the people we can see? 21 The commandment that God has given us is: “Love God and love each other!”
If you are a frail and fallible human being like me then you will realize that you are unable to love all people the way you should. God often brings people in our lives who sharpen us to make us realize that we really need to continually depend on Him to love them as we should. Its a challenge but He has promised in Romans 5:5 that His Spirit pours out Gods love in our hearts. Therefore since the promise is there let us ask God to help us receive that already available ocean of love and remove all obstacles in our lives that hinder the flow of His love through us to others. We cannot change the other person but with Gods help we can change in the way we reach out to them. He desires for us to bear much fruit (Gal. 5:22-23) and will do all it takes to make that happen including the rather painful process of pruning (John 15).
My dear brother, my dear sister, don't give up hope, don't despair, hang in there! No matter how bleak the situation or how difficult it is to relate to some people, Jesus still has all authority in heaven and on earth. He knows what He is doing. Trust Him and make sure that your heart continually abides in Him for with Him it is safe.